In the midst…

by Cindy on December 28, 2009

… of challenging times, God’s desire is that we still delight in Him. Most often His urging to find joy in the midst of sorrow comes through His word. And His urging is based up HIS PRESENCE in the midst of trying circumstances, HIS PURPOSES that we would be refined and molded into the likeness of His glorious Son, and HIS PROMISE that every hardship we endure can be viewed as coming through the hand of our loving adopted Father and is in reality a mark of sonship.

Sometimes, He brings ridiculously lavish fun into our lives in the midst of heartache pointing toward the reality that He is, in His nature, a happy God.

On Christmas Eve our family was gathered at the table finishing up Bartholomew’s Passage when the phone rang. Not wanting to pause our reading, this guy left us a message …

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Hi. This is Sid. I’m one of the elves at the North Pole, but I’ve been out with swine flu. I’m just making deliveries now. Check your front porch.

With supernatural self-control, the kids stayed in their seats and let Bill check out the situation. In he comes with an overflowing bag of gifts, not from Sid, but from God. The tags actually said, “From God!”

One by one the children opened the gifts - each one perfect for their style, their personality, their size! However, Grace didn’t have a gift. The other girls realized it and shared their bounty with her. But the next day, at some point, another bag was delivered - more gifts with a special one for Grace. :) The note on the outside read,

Sorry, this one fell off the sleigh. ~Sid

What lavish FUN through the hands of our God who offers us HIS joy that our joy may be complete.

These past several weeks have been hard. In some ways the transition to having Katya home has gone much smoother than what we imagined, however the honeymoon is over, the adrenalin has worn off, and reality of the long-haul has settled in. Food hiding, treasure stealing, picky eating, potty-training, ear-splitting squealing, sibling wrangling, and more keep us hopping and hoping as we prayerfully try to walk the balance between compassion for Katya, desire to see her experience healing, and the need to continue to offer stability and consistency for the rest of the family. We are feeling the build-up of stress from the year-and-a-half process topped off by the intensity of the past four months as we traveled to Ukraine, once with the whole family, once for four weeks leaving the children in the U.S., and then once more for me all by myself to bring Katya home. We’re recognizing that we have neglected to adequately care for our own hearts and to appropriately cope with pressure. We have kept too many plates spinning and between life pressures, adoption pressures, and financial pressures of our church and family … and we hit a wall.

Our church so graciously has given and continues to give us time to rest, to recover, and to reflect on which plates need to be put down so that we can run well and to address the issues of our hearts. People both inside and outside our church have come alongside us giving us help, wisdom, support, prayer, encouragement, gifts, and fun. In the midst of it all, the Lord knew we needed “Sid.” He urged someone(s) to give lavishly and specifically.

In the midst of this “now” of our lives, we have hope, and this is a hope that does not disappoint.

Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Romans 5:1-5

So, “Thanks, Sid to you, your underlings, and your reindeer!” for being part of God’s work to point us to God and His delight in us.

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… but oh, how we grieve.”

This from a letter on The Loux Family Blog announcing that this father of 10, 3 of whom are Ukrainian children with special needs whom Derek and Renee adopted last year, was killed in a car accident early on the morning of December 23rd. He was traveling home from Colorado where he was participating in a conference receiving training on how to minister to victims of human trafficking.

Derek is in the presence of the Lord, but his wife, Renee, and their children are here.

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My heart aches for this wife and mother of many and I find myself praying for her often through the day. Because of what I see in this family’s life as I observe the testimony of their faith through their blog, have watched Derek lead worship at IHOP, and have seen them join with other families such as John and Tracie Loux and Randy and Kelsey Bohlender in living out their James 1:27 passion to care for orphans, to adopt children who would otherwise be aborted, to rescue girls and women who are victims of human trafficking, and more, I am confident that Renee will find in Jesus her “hope and stay.”

My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness.
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly trust in Jesus’ Name.

On Christ the solid Rock I stand,
All other ground is sinking sand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

When darkness seems to hide His face,
I rest on His unchanging grace.
In every high and stormy gale,
My anchor holds within the veil.

On Christ the solid Rock I stand,
All other ground is sinking sand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

His oath, His covenant, His blood,
Support me in the whelming flood.
When all around my soul gives way,
He then is all my Hope and Stay.

On Christ the solid Rock I stand,
All other ground is sinking sand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

When He shall come with trumpet sound,
Oh may I then in Him be found.
Dressed in His righteousness alone,
Faultless to stand before the throne.

On Christ the solid Rock I stand,
All other ground is sinking sand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

Christ alone is the solid rock. There is no other ground on which we can stand. While I am confident that Renee is resting in the unchanging grace of Christ, finding Him to be her hope and stay, and looking forward with a hope that does not disappoint to the Day when Christ shall return and she will be forever worshipping the Lord with Derek, I am still compelled to pray for her. Would you join me in lifting up Renee, the children, John and Tracie, and the many others who are personally connected with this family?

We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. Therefore encourage one another with these words.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18

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Snow in VA and Snow in Odessa

by Cindy on December 18, 2009

Bill and I were out for several hours this afternoon preparing for the winter storm that is just beginning here in Virginia. For us, this means getting cilantro and limes for the black bean soup, and Hershey bars and marshmallows for banana boats. Thinking about the laundry produced by seven kiddoes playing in the snow, the mounds of boots by the fire, the potential need to haul the gas grill onto the screened porch to cook dinner and the lack of potty-flushing ability, and the inability to drive ANYWHERE in our 12-passenger van is about the hardship we can anticipate.

In Odessa, they are experiencing unusual snowfall as well. However, for our friends, for the kiddoes we left behind, and for the numerous orphans in villages all around Odessa, the hardships are potentially much more dire.

Dear friends !!!

We have an urgent prayer request! As you have probably heard that there is a huge snow storm in Odessa and its region. This means that many villages are left without electricity and food. The trucks that deliver groceries to the village stores just cannot get through. This also means that the orphanages that are located outside of Odessa are left in desperate needs for food as well.

Please pray so that the weather would go better soon and the trucks with food would be able to get to far away places.

Blessings,

Have a wonderful and blessed day,
Slavik and Alyona

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“Jesus loves me this I know …

by Cindy on November 27, 2009

… for the Bible tells me so
Little ones to Him belong
They are weak but He is strong.

Yes, Jesus loves …”

For years, when each of the children were young, I have sung this familiar song to them as part of our bedtime routine believing that getting a grasp of the love of Jesus revealed in the Bible is a foundational piece of developing a vibrant faith. And, when we get to the “Yes, Jesus loves me” part, I always fill in the children’s names and occasionally pause so that they can fill in their own names, the names of their siblings, “Mama,” “Daddy,” etc.

So, last night, gaps in Katya’s understanding were revealed as she and Piper went back and forth listing those whom Jesus loves.

“Yes, Jesus loves Katya”
“Yes, Jesus loves PIper”
“Yes, Jesus loves Cameron, Josiah, Adelyn, Grace, and Sara Maria”
“Yes, Jesus loves Mama and Papa”
“Yes, Jesus loves Tanner and Topsy”

Okay, but not in the same way that He loves you, Katya, and all of our family.

“Yes, Jesus loves bunnies and foxes”

Hmmm…Well, yes, but …

“Yes, Jesus loves Bert”

Bert. Okay, so you need to know that on the airplane from Frankfurt to Washington, D.C., Katya did not sleep until we were beginning our descent. Not only did we watch several hours of Leapfrog Phonics Videos, but we also watched Up - twice. And then, since I was so charmed by the movie (even twice), I rented it for the all the kiddoes to watch a couple of nights ago while Bill and I had a “stay-home date.” Then, since all the kids were completely taken with it as well, last night they watched it again, but this time with Bill alongside.

Now, for those of you have seen Up, you’re wondering what Bert has to do with anything. Kevin is a female snipe who is “discovered” by Russell, the 8-year old wilderness explorer who ends up tagging along on Carl’s, 78-year old widower, pursuit to live out the dream he once shared with his soulmate, Ellie. Carl is less than pleased with Kevin’s arrival on the season and most often calls her “Bird.” So, in the trials and trauma of Kevin’s persistent devotion to Russell, Katya consistently expresses, quite emotively, her deep concern for “Bert.”

So, tonight as Katya sang out …

“Yes, Jesus loves Bert,” Piper smiled, Katya smiled, and I smiled while I noted the gap and prayed for Katya to come to understand that God’s love for her is so much greater than His love for foxes, bunnies, or an animated snipe.

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Crazy Love!

by Cindy on November 26, 2009

An 11-old girl named Lydia began an adventure when she decided to love Jesus in a “crazy” way. While reading Crazy Love, Lydia’s mom challenged her kiddoes to love people in “crazy ways.” Their family has one biological child with Down’s Syndrome, and has adopted another, so Lydia’s heart already beats strongly for children with Down’s and considers these two siblings of hers to be among her greatest blessings. Lydia heard about Darya, a child in a Ukrainian orphanage who is on the verge of being moved from an orphanage to an institution from which she could never be adopted, and this was Lydia’s response …

So I asked my mom if I raised $20,000.00 could we go get Darya ourselves and be her family. My mom said yes, if I raised that much money she would know it was from God, but she said she didn’t think I could do it because that is a whole lot of money. I told her I was going to try my best and nothing is impossible with God.

Well, let me just tell you that the Lord has moved mountains and over $26,000 has come in to adopt Darya. This family will use $20,000 to bring this one lamb home and donate the rest to Reese’s Rainbow for the rescue of another.

The Finley Family is thanking the Lord for the miracle He has done beneath our own roof and for the one He has done toward bringing home Darya.

Because of God’s crazy love for us, we have the freedom to love others with wild abandon trusting that the One who is leading us will NEVER leave us or forsake us. Would you join Lydia in loving boldly? Remember, the Jordan didn’t part until those priests dipped their toes in the water!

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“Katya is like …”

by Cindy on November 25, 2009

Language development is amazing. I wish I understood the process, but I do feel as if I am in the laboratory watching it all unfold. Seeing Katya learn English is just fun and as my friend Sara is observing, the process happens quickly and we need to enjoy the idiosyncrasies while they last.

Today, after playing in the woods behind our house with Josiah for a couple of hours, Katya came running into the house. “Katya see Josiah’s …” and then eyes looking at the ceiling, searching her word warehouse, finger tapping on her chin, mouth screwed to the side, and then the lightbulb turns on … “BUNNY! Katya see Josiah’s BUNNY!”

But, this is my favorite. As she has been introduced to new foods like vegetarian chili, black bean soup, and lasagna, old familiars remain the favorite - anything with ketchup, hard-boiled eggs, tomatoes, cucumbers, and of course potatoes. However, yesterday I went to the grocery store for the FIRST TIME since I returned last Wednesday, thanks to the AMAZING support we have around us and a superb husband who made sure the refrigerator was well stocked, and I brought home bananas. This morning Katya saw them for the first time and eagerly declared, “Katya is like 100 bananas!”

Since I’ve heard this phraseology when she sees the aforementioned favorites, but without the “100,” I easily understood her to be saying that she REALLY likes bananas. :)

“Katya is like … ” We’re treasuring these “Katya-isms,” soaking up the moments, learning her “likes,” and watching with wonder as this precious lamb becomes part of our family.

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“So pretty …”

by Cindy on November 23, 2009

… This has been one of Katya’s favorite phrases over the past few days - whether she’s talking about her new bicycle (Thanks, Mom!), her Princess Paradise, or rocks that she finds in our yard, meticulously washes, and carefully positions on her bookshelf. The adjustment is going surprisingly well and her English is exploding. It may be that we’re in “honeymoon phase,” but even so, we’ll take it as a season of grace from the Lord.

We cannot even begin to express how thankful we are to the multitude who have stood with us and continue to stand with us in this journey to welcome Katya into our life. I wish that I knew all the individuals who have supported us so that I could write you each a personal note. Meals, clothing, caring for the other children, helping with school, running errands, phone calls, emails, and so much more you have all poured out. And most of all, we are thankful for your prayers. This homecoming has been a work of God and you have partnered with us. Thank you!

Since we’ve been home, life has been sweetly full as I have enjoyed my husband and children, between the pleasures of drinking water straight from the tap, flushing toilet paper, and putting wet clothes into the dryer. I plan to post some pictures soon and have quite a few “untold stories” from the past several months to tell. However, since we’re no long “welcoming Katya,” I’m praying about the future of this blog. If you have thoughts, I’d love to hear them.

And now, I’m off to make hot chocolate for some wet children after I hide the dog food from my newest daughter who loves “training” Topsy and Tanner.

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Home!

by Cindy on November 19, 2009

That’s all for now. More to come later!

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Done!

by Cindy on November 17, 2009

We are FINISHED in Kiev! Tomorrow we head home!

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As Katya says, “WOO-HOO!”

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Nearing the Finish Line

by Cindy on November 17, 2009

Kieve Mileposts:

1. Medical Clearance - Check!
2. U.S. Embassy (First Visit) - Check!

Today, Katya and I go back to the Embassy at 2:00 for our final interview. There were a couple of things missing in my packet of papers yesterday (an extra court decree, and the English translation of the court decree was missing the date), so our facilitator took care of that yesterday afternoon, so we should be good to go!

Wednesday afternoon at 2:00, Katya and I leave for Dulles by way of a quick stop in Frankfurt. At this point, we are assigned middle seats for the 9 hour flight - ugh. Suggestions for how to wrangle better seats?

We arrive in Dulles at 8:02 PM. Can you imagine how challenging it will be for me to stand by the luggage carousel waiting for our bags when I know the rest of my sweet family is on the other side of those big double doors?

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